“It’s a bless, to have them around us!”
I was speechless. Having people making mistakes around us is a bless? How could it be?
“It’s a bless when we are able to learn that a particular action is impermissible or inappropriate, and protect ourselves from doing so at any time. However, more importantly, it is our duty to prevent them from repeating the same mistake. Hopefully, when we try to change them, we are forcing ourselves to change as well, of course, to a better person.”
Oh~ so the key point is: an-Nahyu ‘an al-Munkar! (to forbid the evil)
On the authority of Abu Sa’id al-Khudri, radhiyallahu ‘anhu, who said: I heard the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, say: “When any one of you sees anything that is disapproved (of by Allah), let him change it with his hand. If he is not able to do so, then let him change it with his tongue. And if he is not able to do so, then let him change it with his heart, though that is the weakest (kind of) faith.” [Muslim]
Remember this hadith? I bet everyone must have even memorised it by heart. Yeah, at least the 3 key words: with his ‘hand, tongue and heart’. BUT, have we actually practised it in our life?
Note that I underlined the phrase ‘not able’ in the translation of the hadith. Why? Because most of us always forget the sequence of the act to change; it is from up to bottom, and not the other way round! But why most of the time do we love to declare ourselves as in the weakest eeman?
On the authority of Abu Juhayfah, ‘Ali radhiyallahu ‘anhu said, “Indeed, the greatest Jihad is jihad with your hand, then with your tongue and after that with your heart. When the heart does not acknowledge the ma’ruf (good) and does not reject the munkar (evil), for that he has been wrong. And so he changes the topmost to the bottom.” [Refer to 40 Hadith an-Nawawi with commentaries by Dr Mustafa al-Bugho p.394]
“Oh, my friend did this and this, but I can’t tell her that it’s wrong! She’ll avoid me.”
“….. she has a good religious background. She knows herself that what she did is wrong. I don’t need to tell her.”
“Oh, I can’t tell her, I’m afraid she’ll get angry!”
“…. i guess it’s ok if I just keep quiet, as long as I am strongly against it in my heart…”
And worse is when we chose to talk at their back, spreading the news to others, in hoping that other people would carry out the ‘job’ when in fact, it is originally the duty to whoever SEES the evil, not the one who HEARS.
Maybe we should try putting ourselves in their shoes. I mean, the evil-doers’. Our prophet has said that a believer would not do an evil action unless he is in his weakest eeman. So, imagine ourselves in our least of eeman, (Na’udzubiLLah – Allah forbids) and nobody makes an effort to correct our mistakes. How would we feel?
Remember prophet’s words: “None of you is a believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” Therefore, if we don’t like ourselves to be left behind in the darkness, do not let our friends to live with the same mistake each day. Remind them and ourselves the need to prevent the evil even it is as small as an atom. Allah is the All Forgiving and the Most Merciful, however, he is never unaware of what we do.
Just a gentle reminder for us, in a small context. May Allah lead our way to His paradise. For further commentaries on the hadeeth, read: The concept of enjoining what is good and discouraging what is evil.